Dating with adhd disorder
At any given moment, my mind goes in a multitude of directions.
I am perpetually bored, incapable of sitting still and utterly afraid in every sense of the word.
Rather than being “a broken man magnet” or “so desperate she’ll date anything”, I began to see how my ADHD impacted everything about my romantic relationships. There are many things about having ADHD that make my life amazing and better than it would be without it, but when it came to relationships, it is my Achilles heel.
So, in honor of Valentine’s Day, here are the 6 dating mistakes adults with ADHD are apt to make.
With this said, I understand possessing the attention span of a puppy makes maintaining relationships incredibly challenging.
After all, how can a person who cannot focus on a single task manage to focus on a single person? Women who have ADD are a special breed of the already-tortuous female race.
We are emotional, unpredictable, impulsive and more fun than you can possibly imagine.
One of the most transformative things about my diagnosis was getting to re-write this part of my story. It was the reason I was willing to rationalize away almost every kind of bad behavior….after all, I was no picnic myself.
I'm doing my best but I’m nervous, you wore a neon plaid shirt I can’t stop looking at, and the girls next to us are savagely roasting some guy named “Tony,” who I assume is an ex. I could be on a mountaintop with a shirtless Tom Hardy, who is longingly looking into my eyes while he tells me a secret he’s never told anyone, and honestly, if it’s longer than five minutes, I won’t make it the whole way through without thinking about his throwback Myspace pics.
But I will always refocus eventually, and if anything, this has taught me to ask you a lot of questions in order to keep myself centered. I will be at least 10 minutes late almost every time I meet you.
I actively struggle to pay attention on a first date.
You don’t know me yet, so when I inevitably get distracted by my favorite Sia song in the background or how the appetizer menu is written in Comic Sans, you’ll probably think I’m just an asshole who finds your favorite childhood memory to be a total snoozefest. I might not remember all the details from the first time you told me something.