Being white and dating a black man
When they turn to my individual relationship (as they have on occasion in the past), I am less open to talking.To ask me to justify or defend my ten-year relationship with my husband along racial lines is unacceptable, and I won't play.Strong’s defense, notably some of Syracuse’s athletes from other teams.This tweet, from Keon Lyn, who played cornerback for Syracuse’s football team, stood out among the rest: Hannah herself didn’t say this, but the notion that she can’t be racist because she “mess with” a black man made me roll my eyes until I was seeing my skull from the inside.But after reading the article “8 Reasons to date a white man,” I just had to respond for the brothers.We know white men are just as imperfect as the rest of us.I beat myself up: “It’s self-hate, I want to be those white women, don’t I? It’s an easy crutch, to give in to standards of beauty, to call yourself a product of your environment, to say that black women liked thugs instead of you, like Baker did.
Over the weekend, a video was posted of Syracuse University student-athlete Hannah Strong, who is white, shouting the double-barrel slur(s) “faggot-ass nigger” at someone off camera before telling them not to record her and calling them “nigger” once more.
That said, it is my personal relationship that made me react the way I did to this infographic.
If I had not been a white woman married to a black man, I probably would have just read through it and then moved on.
I try really hard not to be dismissive of conversations about how Black women feel about this particular interracial pairing, and I am definitely not trying to be dismissive of the fact that there are power dynamics in play when it comes to why white men and Black women don't pair up in the same numbers.
These are all conversations we should have, but they are societal, systemic conversations.